Released the week after Valentine's Day, this instructive work finds noted director Christopher Hines of The Butch and Adonis Factor fame opting to narrate, rather than take the spotlight away from his subject, as he sets out on a quest to discover the reason as to why so few gay man find true love, in spite of so many desiring a long-term partner.
Canvassing the views of a seemingly endless line-up of cuties who in spite of their eye-candy styled looks are still searching for "the one," Hines is set to unearth many a cold hard fact, not least being the emotional baggage that many a gay man, often unknowingly, carries around with him, issues that can hinder the love process itself and here cue the like of parental rejection, sexual denial, low self esteem, let alone the painful episode for some, that is coming out. But once dealt with and knowing what you are looking for in a relationship and more importantly what is preventing you from finding one, just how easy is it to find a man who may turn out to be your soul mate in life?
True in terms of finding a man, the gay community has always been ahead of the game. From back page ads to chat lines, to internet dating sites and smartphone aps; you name it, we've always made use of the latest technology to get to grips with a man. Yet do any of these mediums actually work for love, as against sex? For some; undoubtedly. For others; not so. All of which brings Hines back to the heart of the matter, for whilst physical attraction undoubtedly plays a vital part, falling in love with the person, as against the body beautiful, is what makes for a lasting bond. Not that l'amour does not have to be worked at, a simple fact that finds a lot of men, sexuality irrelevant, more at ease with casual sex, than striving to keep a relationship alive and in particular taking time out to resolve problems, be it with or without professional help, before what is, turns out to be what was. In this respect, Hines seeks the advice of a series of psychologists and experts in the field of matchmaking, before turning to those truly in the know, namely a set of committed same-sex couples who share every day of their life together, in a monogamous loving relationship.
Professionally shot and edited and packed with a sensual array of buffed to perfection hunks in trunks, Hines closes his telling piece with a list of summary points on how to find and equally keep your man, having added a number of self-help guides to the DVD as a bonus. All of which makes for a wonderfully informative, if at times somewhat stating the obvious feature, one that beautifully illustrates that the path to love can take many twists and turns, before you may well find yourself standing next to your Mr Right. Only and as Hines poignantly asks: are you looking to get laid, or are you looking to fall in love?
